Vairi: Your Digital Third Space.

Make real friends in London, across Europe and in North America

Most adult friendships used to come from school, a first job or a shared flat, and those settings run out. Vairi matches people on what they tell it about conflict style, energy and what is changing in their lives, not on photos, and there is no profile grid to scroll. Details are on the technology page; pricing is on the pricing page.

How Vairi's matching works

The interview is seven short questions: how you handle conflict, your energy level, and what's going on in your life right now, say a recent move or a career change. Vairi reads those answers and introduces you to people who fit, not a list to scroll through. Founder members can open an introduction with something specific to do together, a co-watch room for a film or a shared Spotify queue, instead of an empty chat box and "hey." Vairi learns from your feedback and from the conversations that work, so matches get sharper the more you use it. Vairi introduces members across Europe, the US and Canada, most of them in London; people elsewhere can join the waitlist for their city.

Small evenings online: Friday Aperitivo

Every Friday at 8pm UK time, Vairi hosts Friday Aperitivo: one hour online at a table of up to six members. It is free for members in Europe and the US, voice first with the camera optional, and Vairi runs the evening with question cards so nobody has to break the ice. At the end you privately pick who you would like to talk to again, and mutual picks open a chat. Read more in the Friday Aperitivo announcement.

Privacy and safety by default

You need a verified email to get matched. Vairi doesn't check photos or ID beyond that. Every message runs through an automatic filter before it sends, and three flagged messages suspend an account. Chat logs from a closed match get deleted after 90 days, and you can delete your own account and data whenever you want. More detail is on the Safety & Reporting page and in the Privacy Policy.

Reveals happen on your terms

Either person can ask to reveal names and photos, but it only happens if both agree. One person asking doesn't commit the other to anything. Vairi's members vote on new features directly, so the roadmap comes from people actually using the app rather than a closed product team. You can also invite friends you already have, which helps Vairi learn from real friendships. Full rules are on the Community Guidelines page.

What a digital third space actually means

A digital third space is an online place that is neither home nor work, where people meet the same faces often enough that friendship forms on its own — the internet equivalent of a corner cafe or a regular pub quiz. Sociologists call the offline version a "third place", and most cities have fewer of them than they used to. Vairi is not a dating app and it isn't LinkedIn either. No follower count, no like button, no feed to perform for, just the one or two people who get what you're into on a Sunday morning, or what you're actually going through right now.

How the matching actually works before you see a photo

A short interview asks how you handle conflict, how quickly you like conversations to get real, and what is going on in your life right now. That builds a profile of how you think and talk, not a list of hobbies. Matching weighs that against your current life chapter, whether you just moved, changed careers, or started over, and filters by region so a match lives in your part of the world, not three time zones away. No queue to work through and no grid of profiles to sift.

Common questions

What is Vairi?

Vairi helps you meet new people with the help of AI: a digital third space between dating apps and social media. A short interview tells Vairi what you are looking for, Vairi finds people who fit, and you talk by voice or video and do things together, like watching a film, sharing a playlist or playing a game. Every Friday at 8pm UK time it also hosts Friday Aperitivo, a free hour online at small tables.

How does the AI matching actually work?

You answer a seven-question interview about how you handle conflict, your energy level, and what is going on in your life right now. Vairi reads those answers, filters by country, and introduces you to people who fit, not a list to scroll through. Across Europe, the US and Canada your first introduction comes after you join, then new introductions arrive every Tuesday at 7:30pm UK time in Europe and 7:30pm New York time in the US and Canada. You each see a short introduction first, and the chat opens only once you both say yes, so nobody can message you unless you want to talk.

Is Vairi anonymous?

Yes. Vairi is anonymous-first. Your name, photo, and exact location stay hidden until both people agree to reveal them. One person asking does not commit the other to anything.

How is this different from dating apps?

Vairi is built for platonic friendship, not romance. There is no feed, no swipe deck, no public profiles, and no follower counts. You meet people through Vairi's introductions, with shared activities to do together, and the Friday evenings seat you at a small hosted table.

How much does Vairi cost?

Joining, introductions and chatting with your introductions are free. Founder membership adds unlimited conversation with Vairi about your matches (free members get 10 messages a week) and lets you start shared activities like co-watching, playlists and games. It costs £3.99 a month, £9.99 for 3 months or £19.99 a year, and the first 7 days are free.

Where is Vairi available?

Vairi makes introductions between members across Europe, the US and Canada; London has the most members. Anyone can join from elsewhere and go on the waitlist for their city, which opens once enough people there have joined. Vairi Nights, small online evenings of three to six people (the Friday Aperitivo), are open to members across Europe and the US.

What is Friday Aperitivo?

Friday Aperitivo is Vairi's weekly group evening: one hour online every Friday at 8pm UK time, at a table of up to six people. It is free for members in Europe and the US. You join with your voice, the camera is optional, and Vairi hosts with question cards, so nobody has to break the ice. At the end you privately pick who you would like to talk to again, and mutual picks open a chat.

Is my data safe?

Every account needs a verified email before it can be matched. Chat logs from a closed match are deleted after 90 days, you can delete your own data at any time, and Vairi never sells your data.